He feared me as many men fear women: because their mistresses (or their wives) understand them. They are scarcely adult, some men: they wish women to understand them, and to that end they tell them all their secrets; and then, when they are properly understood, they hate their women for understanding them.
Julian BarnesRemember the botched brothel-visit in LโEducation sentimentale and remember its lesson. Do not participate: happiness lies in the imagination, not the act. Pleasure is found first in anticipation, later in memory.
Julian BarnesSometimes I think the purpose of life is to reconcile us to its eventual loss by wearing us down, by proving, however long it takes, that life isn't all it's cracked up to be.
Julian BarnesWhen youโre young you prefer the vulgar months, the fullness of the seasons. As you grow older you learn to like the in-between times, the months that canโt make up their minds. Perhaps itโs a way of admitting that things canโt ever bear the same certainty again.
Julian BarnesWhat is taken away is greater than the sum of what was there. This may not be mathematically possible; but it is emotionally possible.
Julian Barnes...life is a gift bestowed without anyone asking for it; that the thinking person has a philosophical duty to examine both the nature of life and the conditions it comes with; and that if this person decides to renounce the gift no one asks for, it is the moral and human duty to act on the consequences of that decision.
Julian Barnes