Iโve always thought you are what you are and you shouldnโt pretend to be anyone else. But Oliver used to correct me and explain that you are whoever it is youโre pretending to be.
Julian BarnesEarly in life, the world divides crudely into those who have had sex and those who haven't. Later, into those who have known love, and those who haven't. Later still - at least, if we are lucky (or, on the other hand, unlucky) - it divides into those who have endured grief, and those who haven't. These divisions are absolute; they are tropics we cross.
Julian BarnesI was initially planning to write about grief in terms of Eurydice and the myth thereof. By that point the overall metaphor of height and depth and flat and falling and rising was coming into being in my mind.
Julian Barnes