Most children would rather preserve the fantasy of a loving connection with their fathers and mothers, at all costs, even if it costs them their self-esteem. When you're three or seven years old, it's less frightening to think of yourself as an unlovable, disappointing screwup than to recognize the fact that you're living with a monster.

But that's the hardest part of healing.' What?' Realizing there's no one to hate.

A jealous husband is an ugly thing.

People react predictably, especially when they don't have time to think.

...Some people hurt so much they can't take what they need, even when someone wants to give it to them. (106)

My throat tightened, but I held back the tears and reminded myself that withdrawing from a woman is no different than kicking a drug; you feel shaky and you want it, but eventually the need passes, and you feel restored.

The irrational thoughts were the ones with the power to burn holes in your gut.