What happens is that people who are very religious but who are not in touch with reality, cannot be spiritual.

We live in a constant fear that our shortcomings will be exposed to family, to friends and to the world

The problem is that this speeded-up life and stress in America causes us to cut off our feelings, so we are out of touch with our reality.

We religious controllers control in the name of Jesus and it is really painful to people

I learned that the purpose of the Twelve Steps is to do the will of God.

I grew up and I became very successful at what I did as a young man. I became a work addict because this was the only way I could get any relief from this pain.

A lot of us have jobs where we need to give people structure but that is different from controlling.