Force is followed by loss of strength. This is not the way of the Tao. That which goes against the Tao comes to an early end.
LaoziSpeaking with kindness creates confidence, thinking with kindness creates profoundness, giving with kindness creates love.
LaoziTherefore, if a great kingdom humbles itself before a small kingdom, it shall make that small kingdom its prize. And if a small kingdom humbles itself before a great kingdom, it shall win over that great kingdom. Thus the one humbles itself in order to attain, the other attains because it is humble. If the great kingdom has no further desire than to bring men together and to nourish them, the small kingdom will have no further desire than to enter the service of the other. But in order that both may have their desire, the great one must learn humility.
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