Be empty. Be still. Just watch everything come and go. This is the way of Nature.
Taking things lightly must lead to big difficulties.
The best soldier does not attack. The superior fighter succeeds without violence. The greatest conqueror wins without struggle. The most successful manager leads without dictating. This is intelligent non aggressiveness.
Governing a large state is like boiling a small fish.
As for the "proper way:" it is the beginning of disorder.
If you tell me, I will listen. If you show me, I will see. If you let me experience, I will learn!