Introverts like being introverts. We are drawn to ideas, we are passionate observers, and for us, solitude is rich and generative.

Introvert, her brain responds with a high level of activity, it is as if several lights start flashing on a control panel.

Introvert conversations are like jazz, where each player gets to solo for a nice stretch before the other player comes in and does his solo. And like jazz, once we get going, we can play all night. Extrovert conversations are more like tennis matches, where thoughts are batted back and forth, and players need to be ready to respond. Introverts get winded pretty quickly.

As an introvert, you can be your own best friend or your worst enemy. The good news is we generally like our own company, a quality that extroverts often envy. We find comfort in solitude and know how to soothe ourselves. Even our willingness to look at ourselves critically is often helpful.But, we can go too far. We can hoard responsibility and overlook the role others play. We can kick ourselves when we're down. How many times have you felt lousy about something, only to get mad at yourself for feeling lousy?

Introverts are collectors of thoughts, and solitude is where the collection is curated and rearranged to make sense of the present and future.

If the extrovert is trying to "cheer up" the introvert - extroverts are programmed to seek social rewards! - he or she may feel like a failure if the introvert remains unmoved.

A good rule of thumb is that any environment that consistently leaves you feeling bad about who you are is the wrong environment.