Anything worth doing always starts as a bad idea.
The less you say, the more weight your words will carry.
I think the first trick to writing a feminist work is to write plenty of women. That way you get to write characters, instead of worrying about paradigms.
And there's nothing wrong with being a lizard either. Unless you were born to be a hawk.
Don't argue. Never deign to deny. Meet insults with laughter.
Oh, and the easiest way to make someone furious is to tell her to calm down.