But I am a girl with a keen interest in having it all, and what follows are hopeful dispatches from the frontlines of that struggle.

Don't put yourself in situations you'd like to run away from. But when you run, run back to yourself.

I'm not great at dating, but I need to do it to relax.

But I also think when we embark on intimate relationships, we make a basic human promise to be decent, to hold a flattering mirror up to each other, to be respectful as we explore each other.

I don't want to get married until all gay people can get married.

I would go to work from 9 to 6, go home, nap for two hours, then write from 8 to 2 a.m.

If someone doesn't answer your email within six hours, it means they hate you.