I’ve never thought much about whether I was happy or if I had fun as a child. I was a so-so girl who lived with a so-so family in a so-so village. I didn’t know that there might be another way to live, and I didn’t worry about it either.

I’ve never thought much about whether I was happy or if I had fun as a child. I was a so-so girl who lived with a so-so family in a so-so village. I didn’t know that there might be another way to live, and I didn’t worry about it either.

a laotong relationship is made by choice...when we first looked in each other's eyes in the palanquin I felt something special pass between us--like a spark to start a fire or a seed to grow rice. But a single spark is not enough to warm a room nor is a single seed enough to grow a fruitful crop. Deep love--true-heart love--must grow.

I think sometimes as an adult, you take people for what they do, and what they are now, instead of the whole picture of their lives.

Having a baby is painful in order to show how serious a thing life is.

How can we not create a fantasy in our minds when the reality is so hard?

What stays with me most is a general sense of loss, unease, and longing for the past that cannot be relieved.