You may be desperate, but never let anyone see you as anything less than a cultivated woman.

I think sometimes as an adult, you take people for what they do, and what they are now, instead of the whole picture of their lives.

You can't fight your fate...It is predestined.

When people are alive they love, when they die, they keep loving. If love ends when person dies, that is not real love

Snow Flower was my old same for life. I had a greater and deeper love for her than I could ever feel for a person who was my husband.

How can we not create a fantasy in our minds when the reality is so hard?

I’ve never thought much about whether I was happy or if I had fun as a child. I was a so-so girl who lived with a so-so family in a so-so village. I didn’t know that there might be another way to live, and I didn’t worry about it either.