Let your enemies be disarmed by the gentleness of your manner, but let them feel at the same time the steadiness of your just resentment for there is a great difference between bearing malice, which is always ungenerous, and a resolute self-defense which is ever prudent and justifiable.
Lord ChesterfieldSex: the pleasure is momentary, the position ridiculous, and the expense damnable.
Lord Chesterfield