Physical aggression by a man toward his partner is abuse, even if it happens only once.

Abusers thrive on creating confusion, including confusion about the abuse itself.

Physical aggression by a man toward his partner is abuse, even if it happens only once.

If we want abusers to change, we will have to require them to give up the luxury of exploitation.

An abuser can seem emotionally needy. You can get caught in a trap of catering to him, trying to fill a bottomless pit. But he's not so much needy as entitled, so no matter how much you give him, it will never be enough. He will just keep coming up with more demands because he believes his needs are your responsibility, until you feel drained down to nothing.

Never believe a man's claim that he has to harm his partner in order to protect her; only abusers think this way.

One of the prevalent features of life with an angry or controlling partner is that he frequently tells you what you should think and tries to get you to doubt or devalue your own perceptions and beliefs.