Life is a series of problems. Do we want to moan about them or solve them?

If you are determined not to risk pain, then you must do without many things: having children, getting married, the ecstasy of sex, the hope of ambition, friendship-all that makes life alive, meaningful and significant.

Listen to your child enough and you will come to realize that he or she is quite an extraordinary individual. And the more extraordinary you realize your child to be the more you will be willing to listen. And the more you will learn.

I guess if you want to know one single thing I'm about, it's that I'm against easy answers.

The time and the quality of the time that their parents devote to them indicate to children the degree to which they are valued by their parents. . . . When children know that they are valued, when they truly feel valued in the deepest parts of themselves, then they feel valuable. This knowledge is worth more than any gold.

The principal form that the work of love takes is attention. When we love another person we give him or her our attention; we attend to that person's growth.

The path to holiness lies through questioning everything.