When we love someone our love becomes demonstrable or real only through our exertion - through the fact that for that someone (or for ourself) we take an extra step or walk an extra mile. Love is not effortless. To the contrary, love is effortful.
M. Scott PeckThe principal form that the work of love takes is attention. When we love another person we give him or her our attention; we attend to that person's growth.
M. Scott Peck