But for the first time, I had a religious identity. I had come home. And so I called myself a Zen Buddhist at the age of 18.

If we seek to be loved - if we expect to be loved - this cannot be accomplished; we will be dependent and grasping not genuinely loving.

Doubt is often the beginning of wisdom.

The difficulty we have in accepting responsibility for our behavior lies in the desire to avoid the pain of the consequences of that behavior.

Falling in love is not an extension of one's limits or boundaries; it is a partial and temporary collapse of them.

It is not easy for us to change. But it is possible and it is our glory as human beings

How strange that we should ordinarily feel compelled to hide our wounds when we are all wounded! Community requires the ability to expose our wounds and weaknesses to our fellow creatures. It also requires the ability to be affected by the wounds of others... But even more important is the love that arises among us when we share, both ways, our woundedness.