An unconscious, gentle process whereby people who want to be loving attempt to be so by telling little white lies, by withholding some of the truth about themselves and their feelings in order to avoid conflict. Pseudocommunity is conflict-avoiding; true community is conflict-resolving.
M. Scott PeckIt is our task-our essential, central, crucial task-to transform ourselves from mere social creatures into community creatures.
M. Scott PeckLife is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths. It is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it.
M. Scott PeckMost do not fully see this truth that life is difficult. Instead they moan more or less incessantly, noisily or subtly, about the enormity of their problems, their burdens, and their difficulties as if life were generally easy, as if life should be easy. They voice their belief, noisily or subtly, that their difficulties represent a unique kind of affliction that should not be and that has somehow been especially visited upon them, or else upon their families, their tribe, their class, their nation, their race or even their species, and not upon others.
M. Scott PeckHow strange that we should ordinarily feel compelled to hide our wounds when we are all wounded.
M. Scott PeckEmotional sickness is avoiding reality at any cost. Emotional health is facing reality at any cost.
M. Scott PeckSince the primary motive of the evil is disguise, one of the places evil people are most likely to be found is within the church. What better way to conceal one's evil from oneself as well as from others than to be a deacon or some other highly visible form of Christian within our culture
M. Scott Peck