The cucumber is bitter? Then throw it out. There are brambles in the path? Then go around. That's all you need to know.
Marcus Aurelius... Allow yourself a space of quiet, wherein you can add to your knowledge of the Good and learn to curb your restlessness. Guard also against another kind of error: the folly of those who weary their days in much business, but lack any aim on which their whole effort, nay, their whole thought, is focused.
Marcus AureliusAccept whatever comes to you woven in the pattern of your destiny, for what could more aptly fit your needs?
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