Fear can give you urgent wings.
Perhaps every time anyone is praised it means that someone else somewhere is going to be ignored
At the same time, I think books create a sort of network in the reader's mind, with one book reinforcing another. Some books form relationships. Other books stand in opposition. No two writers or readers have the same pattern of interaction.
I, personally, have found reading a continual support to writing.
In a way, the characters often do take over.
My theory is that I decided to be a writer when I was about seven, but of course it is not as simple as that. Like most writers, I had to work at other things to earn a living and wrote mainly in the evenings, often very late at night, for many years.