I don't like this idea of division: that if you're a clever woman then you've got to be a particular way. Because men don't. Men please themselves.

You've recognised a fundamental feature of an addict's life. Maintaining your habit is so important you've no real interest in anything else.

Do I mind being called a chick-lit writer? Well, it's not the worst thing that could happen.

Nothing sinister. Just getting exercise. Although some might consider that sinister.

No more humiliation for me, thanks very much. No more swallowing my anger. Honestly, I couldn't manage another mouthful. But it was delicious. Did you make it yourself?

I think denial's fascinating. It's a jokey word, but it really happens, and sometimes in enormous ways.

There's no doubt that relationships do suffer when circumstances change profoundly.