There are only 2 reasons that someone would want something in their life and not get it. First, they don't know what to do and second, they know what to do and don't know how to get themselves to do it consistently, if at all.
What if living your life, naturally created what you wanted?
Finding your life less than perfect is a waste of your time.
Those who think govern those who labor.
You will never see what you are capable of, although you must seek to.
Unless you love yourself, it's difficult to respect anyone else who holds that high an opinion of you.