Your informed, "no," to a particular service allows another to offer their gifted and unreserved, "yes."
Even from the darkest night songs of beauty can be born.
A holiday, the day I first named you, "friend."
There is no small act of kindness.
In the garden of your days cultivate festivity, play and celebrations.
In my own deepening understanding of myself I find my capacity to serve others is deepened as well. The better I am at self-care the more genuinely nurturing of others I am able to be.