Every loss recapitulates earlier losses, but every affirmation of identity echoes earlier moments of clarity.

The human species thinks in metaphors and learns through stories.

There are few things as toxic as a bad metaphor. You can't think without metaphors.

The critical question about regret is whether experience led to growth and new learning. Some people seem to keep on making the same mistakes, while others at least make new ones. Regret and remorse can be either paralyzing or inspiring. [p. 199]

The past empowers the present, and the sweeping footsteps leading to this present mark the pathways to the future.

Rarely is it possible to study all of the instructions to a game before beginning to play, or to memorize the manual before turning on the computer. The excitement of improvisation lies not only in the risk of being involved but in the new ideas, as heady as the adrenaline of performance, that seems to come from nowhere.

... as we age we have not only to readdress earlier developmental crises but also somehow to find the way to three affirmations that may seem to conflict. ... We have to affirm our own life. We have to affirm our own death. And we have to affirm love, both given and received.