Fear is not a good teacher. The lessons of fear are quickly forgotten.

The family is changing not disappearing. We have to broaden our understanding of it, look for the new metaphors.

We are not what we know but what we are willing to learn.

Caring can be learned by all human beings, can be worked into the design of every life, meeting an individual need as well as a pervasive need in society.

There are few things as toxic as a bad metaphor. You can't think without metaphors.

Learning to savor the vertigo of doing without answers or making do with fragmentary ones opens up the pleasures of recognizing and playing with patterns, finding coherence within complexity, sharing within multiplicity.

The caretaking has to be done. "Somebody's got to be the mommy." Individually, we underestimate this need, and as a society we make inadequate provision for it. Women take up the slack, making the need invisible as we step in to fill it.