The critical question about regret is whether experience led to growth and new learning. Some people seem to keep on making the same mistakes, while others at least make new ones. Regret and remorse can be either paralyzing or inspiring. [p. 199]

In many ways, constancy is an illusion.

Learning to savor the vertigo of doing without answers or making do with fragmentary ones opens up the pleasures of recognizing and playing with patterns, finding coherence within complexity, sharing within multiplicity.

Of any stopping place in life, it is good to ask whether it will be a good place from which to go on as well as a good place to remain.

Solutions to problems often depend upon how they're defined.

The family is changing not disappearing. We have to broaden our understanding of it, look for the new metaphors.

We do not need to understand other people and their customs fully to interact with them and learn in the process; it is making the effort to interact without knowing all the rules, improvising certain situations, which allows us to grow.