The critical question about regret is whether experience led to growth and new learning. Some people seem to keep on making the same mistakes, while others at least make new ones. Regret and remorse can be either paralyzing or inspiring. [p. 199]

The family is changing not disappearing. We have to broaden our understanding of it, look for the new metaphors.

The human species thinks in metaphors and learns through stories.

Fluidity and discontinuity are central to the reality in which we live.

What would it be like to have not only color vision but culture vision, the ability to see the multiple worlds of others.

Worlds can be found by a child and an adult bending down and looking together under the grass stems or at the skittering crabs in a tidal pool.

We do not need to understand other people and their customs fully to interact with them and learn in the process; it is making the effort to interact without knowing all the rules, improvising certain situations, which allows us to grow.