If you hold back on the emotions--if you don't allow yourself to go all the way through them--you can never get to being detached, you're too busy being afraid. You're afraid of the pain, you're afraid of the grief. You're afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails. But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your heard even, you experience them fully and completely.

You can't substitute material things for love or for gentleness or for tenderness or for a sense of comradeship

There is nothing more fun than hanging around with friends and banging on instruments. Anyone who has ever done it knows that this is true.

Holding on to things only breaks your heart.

It’s not contagious, you know. Death is as natural as life. It’s part of the deal we made.

Going back to something is harder than you think.

Detachment doesn’t mean you don’t let the experience penetrate you. On the contrary, you let it penetrate you fully. That’s how you are able to leave it.