Most of the time, I regard the judgment of people as a waste of time. I regard the judgment of behavior as imperative.

If we attach more importance to what other people believe than to what we know to be true - if we value belonging over being - we will not attain authenticity.

If you overcome your fear to ask someone for a date, a raise, or help with a project, that is an act of self-assertiveness. You are moving out into life rather than contracting and withdrawing.

It's not that achievements prove our worth but rather that the process of achieving is the means by which we develop our effectiveness, our competence at living.

Romantic love is a passionate spiritual-emotional-sexual attachment between a man and a woman that reflects a high regard for the value of each other's person.

One of the most significant characteristics of healthy self esteem is that it is the state of one who is not at war either with himself or with others.

For the rational, psychologically healthy man, the desire for pleasure is the desire to celebrate his control over reality. For the neurotic, the desire for pleasure is the desire to escape from reality.