Romantic love can be terrifying. We experience another human being as enormously important to us. So there is surrender -not a surrender to the other person so much as to our feeling for the other person. What is the obstacle? The possibility of loss.

Where we see self esteem, we see self acceptance. High self esteem individual tend to avoid falling into an adversarial relationship with themselves.

A woman in love will do almost anything for a man, except give up the desire to improve him.

Anyone who engages in the practice of psychotherapy confronts every day the devastation wrought by the teachings of religion.

Living consciously is seeking to be aware of everything that bears on our interests, actions, values, purposes, and goals. It is the willingness to confront facts, pleasant or unpleasant. It is the desire to discover our mistakes and correct them . . . it is the quest to keep expanding our awareness and understanding, both of the world external to self and the world within.

In a world in which the total of human knowledge is doubling about every ten years, our security can rest only on our ability to learn

We tend to feel most comfortable, "most at home", with people whose self esteem level resembles our own.