Every day, it's important to ask and answer these questions: "What's good in my life?" and "What needs to be done?"
Nathaniel BrandenTo live consciously means to seek to be aware of everything that bears on our actions, purposes, values, and goalsโto the best of our ability, whatever that ability may beโand to behave in accordance with that which we see and know.
Nathaniel BrandenFor "I" to become "we" and yet remain "I," is one of the great challenges of marriage.
Nathaniel BrandenOut of fear, out of the desire for approval, out of the misguided notions of duty, people surrender themselves-their convictions and their aspirations-every day. There is nothing noble about it. It takes far more courage to fight for your values than to relinquish them.
Nathaniel BrandenYou can be loved by your family, your mate, and your friends yet not love yourself. You can be admired by your associates yet regard yourself as worthless. You can project an image of assurance and poise that fools almost everyone yet secretly tremble with a sense of inadequacy. You can fulfill the expectations of others yet fail your own. You can win every honor yet feel that you have accomplished nothing. What shall it profit a person to gain the esteem of the whole world yet lose his or her own?
Nathaniel BrandenLiving consciously reflects the conviction that sight is preferable to blindness; that respecting the facts of reality is more satisfying than denying them; that evasion does not make the unreal real or the real unreal; that it is better to correct your mistakes that to pretend they do not exist; and that the more conscious you are of facts bearing on your life and goals, the more wisely and effectively you can act.
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