If your relationship with someone is based on your desire for them to change into something radically different, there's no real closeness there, no real communication.

By coming out to ourselves, we free up the energy we spent keeping a part of ourselves hidden.

SM is an art. Doing it well requires more than a bag full of expensive whips and exotic electrical toys, a closet full of fetish clothes, or a basement filled with bondage furniture.

This is one of the reasons we need to transition: people can't validate an identity they can't see.

Responsibility without power is a really bad deal.

If your relationship with someone is based on your desire for them to change into something radically different, there's no real closeness there, no real communication.

Why do I write? I write because I have to, because it is all I know, because it is my truth, because I am compelled, because I am driven to make the world acknowledge that women like me exist, and we possess a dangerous wisdom.