I talk about things like how to lose without losing identity. All loss and grief feels like when you transition.

Did you get so caught up in the preoccupancy of a relationship that you lost who you were or were busy in life or career that you, like Adam and Eve, got lost in the garden putting fig leaf after fig leaf title, relationship, this accolade, this saying over you that you forgot who you were and what's life's about? So getting back to the core of that and building life by design, that is authentic.

I was in school at the time, but at this time I'm in college. I'm holding up this bible and I say, God, who are you?And so I do nothing for the next two years of my life, virtually, but stay in the word of God and find out what is the answers to life.

When those types of situations[like abuse] begin to occur in your life - I had bought in from a very early age that fundamentally something must be wrong with me.

I always say, you're going to have to ask someone else, but I believe the purpose is to stand as a reconciler, a bridge builder.

[Randy white] was such a huge part of my foundation and who I would become in God - from covering me - when you talked about being sexually abused and not having value for yourself - God so used Randy to cover me with unconditional love. And he saw something in me that I couldn't see in myself.

Larry Jones with Feed the Children and I are partnering in New York and going into Rikers Island.