There is a way hook ups are serving young women. And it was important for me to always talk about how behaviours were serving girls, not just making them the victims.

But it is Bella, not the supernaturals she falls in with, who is the true horror show here, at least as a female role model.

Not that long ago, the idea of feeding your kid with organic fruit and vegetables or paying attention to sustainability or any of that - that was very fringy. And I guess some people will argue it still is to a degree, but it's kind of mainstream fringy now.

The notion is called wabi-sabi life, like the cherry blossom, it is beautiful because of its impermanence, not in spite of it, more exquisite for the inevitability of loss.

We're afraid if girls find out sex is pleasurable they'll stop being gatekeepers, they'll go out and have sex.

For years we've used the bases analogy - with intercourse being the "ultimate sex" even though that's probably not going to feel good to girls. That model doesn't let you say "I like it at second base, maybe I'll stay here."

I found that in a perverse way our culture and parents are far more comfortable talking about girls' vicitimization than girls' sexual agency.