When you refrain from habitual thoughts and behavior, the uncomfortable feelings will still be there. They don’t magically disappear. Over the years, I’ve come to call resting with the discomfort “the detox period,” because when you don’t act on your habitual patterns, it’s like giving up an addiction. You’re left with the feelings you were trying to escape. The practice is to make a wholehearted relationship with that
Pema ChodronIt's helpful to remind yourself that meditation is about opening and relaxing with whatever arises, without picking and choosing.
Pema ChodronThis moving away from comfort and security, this stepping out into what is unknown, uncharted and shaky - that's called liberation.
Pema ChodronBeing satisfied with what we already have is a magical golden key to being alive in a full, unrestricted, and inspired way.
Pema ChodronHope and fear come from feeling that we lack something; they come from a sense of poverty. We can’t simply relax with ourselves. We hold on to hope, and hope robs us of the present moment. We feel that someone else knows what is going on, but that there is something missing in us, and therefore something is lacking in our world.
Pema ChodronThe Buddha taught that flexibility and openness bring strength and that running from groundlessness weakens us and brings pain. But do we understand that becoming familiar with the running away is the key? Openness doesn't come from resisting our fears but from getting to know them well
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