WE ALREADY HAVE everything we need. There is no need for self-improvement. All these trips that we lay on ourselvesโthe heavy-duty fearing that weโre bad and hoping that weโre good, the identities that we so dearly cling to, the rage, the jealousy and the addictions of all kindsโnever touch our basic wealth. They are like clouds that temporarily block the sun. But all the time our warmth and brilliance are right here. This is who we really are. We are one blink of an eye away from being fully awake.
Pema ChodronThe approach is that the best way to use unwanted circumstances on the path of enlightenment is not to resist but to lean into them.
Pema ChodronThe painful thing is that when we buy into disapproval, we are practicing disapproval. When we buy into harshness, we are practicing harshness. The more we do it, the stronger these qualities become. How sad it is that we become so expert at causing harm to ourselves and others. The trick then is to practice gentleness and letting go. We can learn to meet whatever arises with curiosity and not make it such a big deal.
Pema Chodron