The essence of generosity is letting go. Pain is always a sign that we are holding on to something - usually ourselves.
Pema ChodronAwareness is the key. Do we see the stories that we're telling ourselves and question their validity?
Pema ChodronSticking with uncertainty is how we learn to relax in the midst of chaos, how we learn to be cool when the ground beneath us suddenly disappears. We can bring ourselves back to the spiritual path countless times every day simply by exercising our willingness to rest in the uncertainty of the present momentโover and over again.
Pema ChodronThe real thing that we renounce is the tenacious hope that we could be saved from being who we are.
Pema ChodronWe think that the point is to pass the test or overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don't really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. It's just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy. (10)
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