Remind yourself, in whatever way is personally meaningful, that it is not in your best interest to reinforce thoughts and feelings of unworthiness. Even if you've already taken the bait and feel the familiar pull of self-denigration, marshal your intelligence, courage, and humor in order to turn the tide. Ask yourself: Do I want to strengthen what I'm feeling now? Do I want to cut myself off from my basic goodness? Remind yourself that your fundamental nature is unconditionally open and free.
Pema ChodronCompassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. Itโs a relationship between equals.
Pema ChodronOne of the main discoveries of meditation is seeing how we continually run away from the present moment, how we avoid being here just as we are. Thatโs not considered to be a problem. The point is to see it.
Pema ChodronIf you follow your heart, you're going to find that it is often extremely inconvenient.
Pema ChodronWhen things are shaky and nothing is working, we might realize that we are on the verge of something. We might realize that this is a very vulnerable and tender place, and that tenderness can go either way. We can shut down and feel resentful or we can touch in on that throbbing quality. (9)
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