Instead of being ashamed of what you've been through, be proud of what you have overcome!

You cannot be who and what you are unless you have a lifestyle, both internally and externally, that is designed to support that definition of self.

Reality check: you can never, ever, use weight loss to solve problems that are not related to your weight. At your goal weight or not, you still have to live with yourself and deal with your problems. You will still have the same husband, the same job, the same kids, and the same life. Losing weight is not a cure for life.

Are you doing what you're doing today because you want to do it, or because it's what you were doing yesterday?

If your neighbor has a completely different view on abortion, gay marriage, stem cell research, all of those things, you still are both Americans. Neither one of you is necessarily more patriotic than the other. Neither loves their country any more than the other one does.

Anyone can do something when they want to do it. Really successful people do things when they don't want to do it.

When you get married, your loyalty, first and foremost, is to your spouse, and to the family that you create together.