When you get married, your loyalty, first and foremost, is to your spouse, and to the family that you create together.
You don't need a rope to pinch a stranger's butt.
In life you have three options with any situation that is a challenge. Remove yourself from the situation, change it, or accept it.
Leaders inspire. They aren't assigned leadership. They command it.
There is power in forgiveness.
If your neighbor has a completely different view on abortion, gay marriage, stem cell research, all of those things, you still are both Americans. Neither one of you is necessarily more patriotic than the other. Neither loves their country any more than the other one does.