Instead of being ashamed of what you've been through, be proud of what you have overcome!
I mean, if you degrade someone, you isolate them, you control them, you call them names, you demean them. That's a horrible existence for people.
I grew up in athletics, where people keep score.
People create their own experiences.
This is no dress rehearsal.
You cannot be who and what you are unless you have a lifestyle, both internally and externally, that is designed to support that definition of self.