The gain is not the having of children; it is the discovery of love and how to be loving.

If your children see that you are seeking, they will seek-the finding part is up to God.

We can see that the baby is as much an instrument of nourishment to us, as we are for him.

We cannot spare our children the influence of harmful values by turning off the television any more than we can keep them home forever or revamp the world before they get there. Merely keeping them in the dark is no protection and, in fact, can make them vulnerable and immature.

A child needs both to be hugged and unhugged. The hug lets her know she is valuable. The unhug lets her know that she is viable. If you're always shoving your child away, they will cling to you for love. If you're always holding them closer, they will cling to you for fear.

The trouble with most problem-solving books for parents is that they start with the idea that the child has a problem. Then they try to tell us how to fix the child, or else, after blaming the parent, they suggest how we can fix ourselves.

The secret is to learn to sit at the feet of your own life and be taught by it.