I justified it in so many ways. I had a very, very long and difficult struggle with my sexuality.

I wondered if that's what aging felt like. That desire and reality were dueling until the day you die, that nobody every got to a place of peace. I had always wanted to get old so I didn't have to care anymore, but I began to think that it would be best just to skip the getting older part and just die.

I didn't choose the fact that I was gay, but I did choose whether to live my life as a gay woman-that was the terrifying thing for me. Especially being a gay actress.

I justified it in so many ways. I had a very, very long and difficult struggle with my sexuality.

I try to be feminine, yet intellectual and smart at the same time. You don't see enough of that.

My feelings for Ellen overrode all of my fear about being out as a lesbian. I had to be with her, and I just figured I'd deal with the other stuff later.

Healing comes from love. And loving every living thing in turn helps you love yourself.