Love is a choice. Total forgiveness is a choice. It is not a feeling-at least at first-but is rather an act of the will. It is the choice to tear up the record of wrongs we have been keeping.
R. T. KendallDetached forgivenessโthere is a reduction in negative feelings toward the offender, but no reconciliation takes place. Limited forgivenessโthere is a reduction in negative feelings toward the offender, and the relationship is partially restored, though there is a decrease in the emotional intensity of the relationship. Full forgivenessโthere is a total cessation of negative feelings toward the offender, and the relationship is fully restored.
R. T. Kendall