A blessing is not something that one person gives another. A blessing is a moment of meeting, a certain kind of relationship in which both people involved remember and acknowledge their true nature and worth, and strengthen what is whole in one another.

Facts bring us to knowledge, but stories lead to wisdom.

My sense is that you can never teach anybody anything, or change anybody in ways that they don't already have in mind.

When we listen, we offer with our attention an opportunity for wholeness.

Cancer changes your whole life.

One of my patients told me that when she tried to tell her story people often interrupted her to tell her that they once had something just like that happen to them. Subtly her pain became a story about themselves. Eventually she stopped talking to most people. It was just too lonely. We connect through listening. When we interrupt what someone is saying to let them know that we understand, we move the focus of attention to ourselves. When we listen, they know we care. Many people with cancer talk about the relief of having someone just listen.

Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention