One key factor in the downward spiral in our educational system is that there is too much stroking and too little real feedback.
Randy PauschNever make a decesion until you have to". He'd also warn me that even if I was in a position of strenght, whether at work or in a relationship, I had to play fair. "Just because you're in the driver's seat, doesn't mean you have to run people over.
Randy Pausch