It's not "wishful" thinking.
If you have more negative things than positive things in your life, then something is very wrong and you know it.
You get to choose what you want, but you must get clear about what you want.
When the opportunity is there, when the impulse is there
Without exception, every person who has a great life used love to achieve it. The power to have all the positive and good things in life is love.
It's OK that thoughts don't manifest into reality immediately.