It requires greater courage to preserve inner freedom, to move on in one's inward journey into new realms, than to stand defiantly for outer freedom. It is often easier to play the martyr, as it is to be rash in battle. Strange as it sounds, steady, patient growth in freedom is probably the most difficult task of all, requiring the greatest courage. Thus if the term "hero" is used in this discussion at all, it must refer not to the special acts of outstanding persons, but to the heroic element potentially in every man.
Rollo MayNo one can separate themselves from one's social group and remain healthy, because the very structure of personality is dependent on the community.
Rollo MayGenerally, the shaking is consciously felt in its positive aspects โ as the wonderful new heaven and earth which love with its miracle and mystery has suddenly produced. Love is the answer, we sing. Our Western culture seems to be engaged in a romantic - albeit desperate - conspiracy to enforce the illusion that that is all there is to eros.
Rollo MayWhen we are dealing with human beings, no truth has reality by itself; it is always dependent upon the reality of the immediate relationship.
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