That the question of likability even exists in literary conversations is odd. It implies that we are engaging in a courtship. When characters are unlikable, they donโt meet our mutable, varying standards. Certainly we can find kinship in fiction, but literary merit shouldnโt be dictated by whether we want to be friends or lovers with those about whom we read.
Roxane GaySome women being empowered does not prove the patriarchy is dead. It proves that some of us are lucky.
Roxane GayEmotionally, my ambition is not yet sated. Emotionally, I still feel like a kid at the adult's table, yearning for recognition. I'm not sure where this all comes from but it is how I feel.
Roxane GayI don't ever rest. It's a problem and hopefully something I will get a better handle on in the coming years.
Roxane GayDonโt flirt, have sex, or engage in emotional affairs with your friendsโ significant others. This shouldnโt need to be said, but it needs to be said. That significant other is an asshole, and you donโt want to be involved with an asshole whoโs used goods. If you want to be with an asshole, get a fresh asshole of your very own. They are abundant.
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