The designation is useful and necessary and sometimes limiting but it is only limiting to people who think, for example, that African-American literature couldn't possibly be something they could be interested in or relate to. They have limited imaginations, which is sad.
Roxane GayDonโt flirt, have sex, or engage in emotional affairs with your friendsโ significant others. This shouldnโt need to be said, but it needs to be said. That significant other is an asshole, and you donโt want to be involved with an asshole whoโs used goods. If you want to be with an asshole, get a fresh asshole of your very own. They are abundant.
Roxane GayWe need to stop playing Privilege or Oppression Olympics because we'll never get anywhere until we find more effective ways of talking through difference. We should be able to say, โThis is my truth,โ and have that truth stand without a hundred clamoring voices shouting, giving the impression that multiple truths cannot coexist.
Roxane GayI'm fat positive, in that I don't see fat as a bad thing. But what I do see as a bad thing is how I'm treated. I can have the most positive outlook in the world, but that is not going to change how hecklers and people walking down the street are yelling at me.
Roxane Gay