Oftentimes, when a woman demands accountability, respect, or consideration, she is crazy or nagging or whatever.
Roxane GaySo often feminism is built up as this thing where you have to be perfect. You have to be consistent and you can't ever deviate. That's just not realistic.
Roxane GayI thought a lot about how so many memoirs about fatness focus on weight loss; they don't focus on living with weight in a world that is rather inhospitable to it. So I knew that was the idea that was going to be most interesting and most challenging, and I like to be challenged as a writer.
Roxane Gay