Trust what moves you most deeply.

We come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.

I think it's increasingly hard to have deep self-knowledge without entering the darkness in some way.

The traditional gender ideals of the strong-silent man who plays his cards close to his chest and the mysterious woman who disguises her feelings with coyness go so far as to make a virtue of being unavailable and secretive. But wholehearted intimacy can develop only where two people are equally forthcoming and self-revelatory. To take the risk of loving, we must become vulnerable enough to test the radical proposition that knowledge of another and self-revelation will ultimately increase rather than decrease love. It is an awe-ful risk.

If we had a better understanding of the ways we think about enemies, we might be able to think of more rational ways of settling conflict.

We suffer from the illusion that the faster we run, the more likely we are to grasp happiness. The truth is that the velocity necessary for success rarely exceeds the rate of reflection.

We learn to fly not by being fearless, but by the daily practice of courage.